Divorce is A Nice Adventure Until The Effect Outweighs The Cause
Four impressions from Lucille
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Dr. Myles Monroe said, "When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable.
But I'm saying here that if the purpose of a thing (action or choice) is not valued, abuse becomes an option.
Today I'm reviewing A Country Lyrics by Kenny Rogers released in 2003 titled – Lucille.
Kenny Rogers who is equally known by his birth name as Brandon Ray Rogers, lived and died at age 81, was an American singer, songwriter, and actor. He was inducted into the Country Music Hall of Fame in 2013. Rogers was particularly popular with country audiences but also charted more than 120 singles across various genres. His fame and career spanned multiple genres: jazz, folk, pop, rock, and country. He remade his career and was one of the most successful cross-over artists of all time.
Lucille is about the story of a married couple in whom one partner decided to quit the terms of marital commitment to the detriment of the other partner.
I find it unthinkable how two people who once loved themselves to a fault, begin to grow weary of each other's company so that the peace, Joy, dreams, warmth, and affection they once shared and enjoyed, which bonded them together soon becomes cold that no good memory is served.
Nowadays, there are more justifiable reasons why the chemistry that connected a couple in a lovely union has lost its base. That is, the hope of "forever togetherness" is smashed and divorce becomes the only solution. Ahh! Sadly, or more often than not, the risks involved in getting a divorce are not always considered.
A man and a woman who are supposed to be friends, live in the same house and grow cold in each other's presence. Instead of seeking ways to strengthen the bond of what brought them together, they let loose and start engaging the skills of "blame game." Eventually, they get tired of the game and decide to quit, not minding the possible injuries.
Here the songwriter tries to uncover the dangers of divorce. Telling how a wife's decision to leave her partner, left the man broken, unshaded, and completely devastated being left alone with loads of need to care for. The woman on the other hand seemed very comfortable with her choice to go South away from her marriage. She immediately found pleasure in the company of another man without giving a moment to think about the most essential things of the days before.
I believe she had onetime seen her dreams come through when she said 'yes' to her husband, but here she was letting her trust run with the time, so that ;
"On a barstool, she took off her ring"
She leaned a bit on a glass of whiskey to rust her heart, and when she had had enough – then confessed how strong she had been. She simply said; "I'm no quitter but I finally quit living on dreams."
This woman sounded obviously tired of living a better version of her life only in the realms of thoughts and imagination. Most probably she must have hoped for a luxurious life, a life full of leisure, and pleasures but her clock kept on ticking left – turning her beautiful dreams into nightmares. She decided to quit a life of many dreams with no realities and yet crave laughter and whatever comfort a life outside marriage could offer her.
As seen in the lyrics; I'm hungry for laughter and here ever after, I'm after whatever the other life brings.
She was starving from happiness and every cause of joy due to unbearable hardship. While she was suffocating from her cravings, the songwriter presented another scene of a worn-out man who walked with an imbalanced posture and surely a devastated look, to reach out to the woman he once loved and maybe still does, to tell how broken her decision has left him. How his world has come to a halt without a shade of brightness or blue sky.
Ironically, the lyrics read;
" You picked a fine time to leave me, Lucille
With four hungry children and crop in the field
I've had some bad times, lived through some sad times
But this time your hurting won't heal."
I'm sure the man was going through a lot of struggles already and facing his home alone with four children who have lofty needs was what he never imagined. And was contemplating how he will cope with his career while equally giving attention to his children and their needs. He was yet to experience the hardest times of the divorce but the thought of it was already tearing him apart. He could never heal from such pain.
I bet his wife had already zoomed into her joyful future without any experience of her past hunting her. Even her newfound acquaintance could not think through her choice and wouldn't be a second fool to have anything to do with her.
As he said in the next few lines;
After he left us, I ordered more whiskey
I thought how she'd made him look small
From the lights of the barroom to a rented hotel room
We walked without talking at all
The young man could not clear his head off the story he heard about the beautiful woman and the scars in the man's message kept on showing up in his mind so that despite being a beautiful woman, he could not fall head over heels for her.
"She was a beauty but when she came to me
She must have thought I'd lost my mind
I couldn't hold her cause the words that he told her kept coming back time after time.
The idea of this review is completely based on the expression of the songwriter in the lyrics. And I'll like to point out some things specifically. First of, I've thought of how tough life must be with many divorce men and women out there, yet I can't seem to get closure to the many wrongs that can happen as a result of such unprocessed decisions.
For instance, over the last few days in my clime, the conversation about the obnoxious Achraf Hakami's divorce from his wife has raised a lot of concern in the minds of the masses of which some views are deeply reasonable. But no particular attention is paid to the ripple effect of the divorce on their growing kids. It doesn't matter, after all, they are not the first celebrities to get divorced.
This calls for worry each time I realized the rate at which divorce is happening in marriages – it is becoming very alarming and out of proportion. Unfortunately, we get to see very bad impressions coming weightily from the Western cultures and is vastly invading the spaces of African homes/marriages. People now walk into marriage and walk out as though it were child's play. No elements of love, sympathy, or empathy at all.
Some people go into marriage for some ungodly selfish reasons and worsen the chances of the younger generation ever honoring the prestige of marriage. I hate to say but marriage has been reduced to a career that can simply be studied and get done within a short time.
Listen to the Lucille here to understand better what I'm talking about.
Four Impressions from Lucille
1. It is clear that the faith in true godly marriage has fallen apart and religious institutions, churches, and customary lawmakers have a responsibility to provide solutions to fix the mess.
2. Divorce is a selfish intention aimed at destroying families, it should be combated with the armory of prayer, patience, love, resoluteness, and complete therapy.
3. Only in critical and harmful situations like the case of serious abuse should warrant the quest for divorce – not on grounds of disagreement and unfortunate experiences.
4. Couples should root all things necessary to live as friends in their marriage, that way it will be difficult to let go of your friend in times of difficulty.
A Call To Mind
Being open to structural learning can help get rid of sentimental knowledge fan to flames by ignorance. Life indeed has no manual but we can't overlook the sweet crumbs that fall from the table of those who have made successful footprints to the end of the road.
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Scripture To Meditate
Psalm 133:1-3
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!
It is like the precious ointment upon the head, that ran down upon the beard, even Aaron's beard: that went down to the skirts of his garments;
As the dew of Hermon, and as the dew that descended upon the mountains of Zion: for there the Lord commanded the blessing, even life for evermore.
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